Articol - De ce sa-ti imbratisezi copiii cand nu sunt cuminti?

Image result for hug childUn gest care va va linisti pe amandoi. De ce? 
Iata principalele motive: 
  1. Copiii invata mai usor din iubire si mai greu din pedepse
O imbratisare si o mica discutie despre ceea ce se petrece il vor face pe copil mult mai responsabil decat niste urlete si niste pedepse.

  1. Copiii nu sunt obraznici, ci doar nu stiu sa-si gestioneze emotiile
In situatiile in care copiii sunt coplesiti de emotii, indiferent ca sunt pozitive sau negative, ei nu prea stiu cum sa se comporte. Si atunci devin agitati. Aceasta agitatie se traduce de multe ori prin „obraznicie”. Insa ei pot fi strestati, frustrati etc. Printr-o imbratisare si o discutie, vei afla ce-l macina cu adevarat, il vei linisti si il poti invata cum sa gestioneze astfel de emotii data viitoare.

  1. Copiii se simt nerespectati si cred ca nu merita iubire
Cand copiii sunt agitati si stiu ca urmeaza o pedeapsa sau o vorba aspra, ei cred despre ei ca nu sunt buni de nimic, ca nu sunt respectati si ca nu merita iubire. Iar daca in acele momente, primesc acea iubire de care au nevoie, sentimentele lor vor fi validate si nu se vor mai simti o persoana rea.
  1. Cea mai buna metoda de cooperare este conectarea
Atunci cand ai o legatura stransa cu copilul, acesta se straduieste mai mult sa se comporte civilizat. Iar imbratisarile sunt o foarte puternica metoda de reconectare. 
  1. Iubirea pentru copil este neconditionata
Nu-ti iubesti copilul doar cand e cuminte. Iti iubesti copilul indiferent de situatie. In acest caz, trebuie sa i-o arati. Si ce mod mai bun de a-i arata ca-l iubesti decat sa-l imbratisezi in momentele in care el s-ar astepta cel mai putin la o imbratisare. 
  1. Si parintii au nevoie de imbratisare
Imbratisarea nu face bine doar copilului, ci si parintelui. Asa ca, data viitoare cand copilul nu e cel mai cuminte din lume, imbratiseaza-l. E cea mai buna metoda sa elimini frustrarea din ambele tabere.

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